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Additionally,
in none of the films except The Graduate is the
woman portrayed as exploiting the boy. Instead,
they seem to be loving, concerned, and even self-sacrificing
(Tea and Sympathy), or lonely and emotionally vulnerable
(Summer of ‘42 and The Last Picture Show),
or even saving the boy's psychological life
(Tea and Sympathy and Harold and Maude). The relationship
with the older woman is portrayed as basically positive
for the boy or young man involved, particularly
with regard to his developing sexuality. Even in
The Graduate, Mrs. Robinson is a mesmerizing siren
who, while selfish and vindictive, offers Benjamin
an exciting introduction to sexuality.
Yet,
if we consider their situations, each of the women
is needy and has a personal agenda that influences
her decision to have sex with the boy. The women
in Tea and Sympathy, The Graduate, and The Last
Picture Show have shaky marriages and/or feel neglected
and unappreciated. The woman in Summer of ‘42
uses the boy for solace in her grief over her husband's
death. While Maude in Harold and Maude seems to
be altruistic in relation to Harold, we can think
of her as wanting to share her final days with a
young man and perhaps attain a kind of immortality
by passing her zest for life on to him. These situations
are all exploitative to the extent that the women
are satisfying their own needs without a considered
regard for the possible negative impact of their
actions on the boys involved. This will be even
clearer in my discussion of maternal incest in the
next section.
But
even if we accept the premise of each individual
film that in the particular situation being portrayed
there was no abuse involved, we must also consider
the overall effect of film after film in which sex
between a boy and an older woman is seen as positive
for him. There is no model for a boy in such a situation
to feel it is acceptable not to welcome, enjoy,
and get pleasure from the relationship. This is
the crucial point here: portrayals in this popular
medium only support the idea that boys are happy
to be offered sex with older women, and never endorse
the view that such situations are or can be sexual
betrayals.
Maternal Incest in Film
Virtually all films portraying incest involve a boy
and a female relative, whether she is a mother (Fists
in the Pocket, 1965; Night Games, 1966; The Damned,
1969; Luna, 1969; Murmur of the Heart, 1971; Spanking
the Monkey, 1994), grandmother (Midnight Cowboy, 1968,
Mishima: A Life in Four Chapters, 1985); or sister
(Through a Glass Darkly, 1962). Father-son incest
is alluded to in Primal Fear and its aftereffects
are portrayed in The Celebration (see below for discussions
of these movies), but otherwise male-male incest does
not appear in any popular film I know of, even though
it actually occurs more frequently in real life than
female-male incest with male victims. Presumably,
moviemakers believe audiences will not tolerate male-male
incest in a film that is, of course, ultimately made
to be profitable.
Mother-son
incest is perhaps the most provocative and titillating
incestuous relationship (Gartner, 1999). Incoming-of-age
movies like those discussed in the previous section,
mother-son incest is presented symbolically in the
relationships between older women and boys. Certainly
the fascination and shock value of these stories
is that the woman involved is old enough to be the
boy's mother and is often in a position of
power and trust in relation to him.
Overt,
rather than symbolic, mother-son incest is the central
theme of Murmur of the Heart and Spanking the Monkey.
There is, however, a stark contrast between the
two movies in their depiction of maternal incest
and its aftereffects. I will examine them in detail:
In
Murmur of the Heart, a French film by Louis Malle,
Laurent, a 14-year-old boy, lives with his two older
brothers, his gynecologist father, and his beautiful
mother, Clara, who is considerably younger than
her husband. The parents lead nearly separate lives,
while the older boys are outrageous, indulged, and
nasty. These brothers urinate in their mother's
sink on one occasion, compare penis size with one
another and with Laurent, and take the younger boy
to a bordello for a first sexual experience with
a woman, which they humiliatingly interrupt. Laurent
emulates his brothers when he can. We see him stealing
a record from a store, and he is shown with his
priest/teacher in a scene that includes an attempted
seduction by the priest. In time, Laurent discovers
his mother is having an affair.
When
Laurent is found to have a heart murmur, he and
Clara go to a spa for treatment. In this second
half of the film, the relationship between the mother
and son is more fully delineated. Clara had married
her husband after becoming pregnant at age 16, much
to his bourgeois family's horror. She is bored,
yet fascinating. We see Laurent gaze at his mother
when she is naked in the bathroom. She gets angry
and slaps him, yet her messages are mixed. There
is abundant seductive energy between the two, and
she passively encourages his erotic interest in
her.
Clara's
lover visits her, and Laurent listens from the next
room during their tryst. At the lover's insistence,
she goes away with him. Left alone, Laurent carefully
and lovingly spreads his mother's underwear
on her bed, recreating the pattern of her body with
it and then putting on her makeup. He seems to make
up for her absence by simultaneously becoming her
and making love to her image.
When
Clara gives up her lover, Laurent consoles her.
Both inebriated, they make love in an extended erotic
scene that includes intercourse. Afterward, Clara
says it will never be repeated but will always be
remembered as a beautiful moment by both of them.
Later, Laurent steals out of the room and spends
the night with a young girl his own age. In the
morning, when he tries to sneak back to his own
room, he discovers his father and brothers have
unexpectedly arrived. Clara is at first very flustered
because Laurent is not there. When he comes in,
the father and brothers laugh uproariously, presumably
because they assume he's been with a girl
all night. After some hesitation, both Clara and
Laurent join in their prolonged hilarity as the
film ends.
Murmur
of the Heart originally caused a scandal in France,
where government money for its production was withheld.
But it was a success with many critics, who saw
it as a refreshingly nontraumatic portrayal of a
taboo act. Braucourt (1971) described the movie's
denouement this way: "Suddenly, Clara takes
this lovesick, confused young man in her arms. What
occurs after that happens in the most natural way
possible . . ." (p. 48). Afterward, Braucourt
continued, "freed of his obsession with his
mother, Laurent is also now able to come to terms
with his father and his brothers -- with all men,
in fact. And, as for women . . . well there happens
to be a pretty young girl staying at the spa who
has been trying to get his eye . . ." (p.
50).
When
originally shown in the United States in the early
1970s and later revived in 1989, Murmur of the Heart
was considered a charming and ironic Gallic questioning
of traditional ideas about the bad effects of mother-son
incest. Darling (1989) called it "wonderful
and charming" in New York Newsday (p. 7),
while Musetto (1989) wrote in the New York Post
that it was an "enticing and invigorating
Oedipal comedy . . . [that] deals with [incest]
delicately and maturely" (p. 23). Musetto
went on to say, "Malle makes it perfectly
clear that neither Laurent nor Clara will suffer
any long-lasting ill effects of what comes across
as indiscretion rather than depravity" (p
23). Keyser (1975) similarly wrote that the incest
act "is presented as a positive, indeed a
lovely and touching moment in his life, a stage
in a natural cycle" (p. 187). Genet (1971)
wrote in the New Yorker that it was a film of "perfect
credibility" (p. 133), "an affectionate,
touching, and unshocking story of altogether accidental
incest" (p. 130; emphasis added).
A
smaller number of writers questioned this perception.
In a mixed review in the New York Times, Canby (1971)
called the film "a slick, almost incredibly
charming family comedy about a family that isn't
very charming" (p. 1). In the movie, Canby said,
"the boy possesses his first and dearest love,
Mom, and Mom goes on to other affairs secure in the
knowledge that she has not only straightened out her
son, but won a permanent place in his heart, probably
ahead of all women to come" (p. 1). Writing
in the Village Voice, Brown (1989) criticized the
movie more sharply, calling Murmur of the Heart "a
crowd pleaser [that] uses cuteness to make incest
. . . look easy" (p. 70). She added that the
film "runs from the implications of its choices.
The movie's pace is frantic, almost hysterical;
the tone is off[,] . . . excruciatingly grating"
(p. 70).
In
1996, I led a discussion of Murmur of the Heart for
a group of psychoanalysts who work with sexually abused
patients. From the perspective of clinicians in the
1990s, even those who remembered thinking the film
was delightful and charming when they saw it twenty-five
years earlier, the film is dominated by the dark and
distressing psychological forces under its lightly
ironic tone. The family is disturbed in insidious
ways. The parents know nothing about one another's
innermost lives and little about the lives of their
three sons, with whom the parents have no capacity
or inclination to set limits. The sons are out of
control and vicious to one another and to the family's
servants. Sexuality in its most corrupt and hurtful
forms is rampant in the family's life, as seen
in the mother's "secret" affair,
which is revealed to Laurent and is also known to
the servants; in the priest's sexual advances
to Laurent; in the brothers' competitive comparisons
of their penis sizes and in their rough and humiliating
sexual initiation of Laurent. It is even implied in
the circumstances of the parents' courtship
and marriage when the mother was impregnated at 16
by the father, a much older, established physician.
The family's manic denial of its troubled depths
is extraordinary.
Malle
believed the incest was nontraumatic for Laurent
(Chutkow, 1989), and some critics felt this was
demonstrated by Laurent's immediately going
to bed with a young girl after he commits incest
(Braucourt, 1971; Chutkow, 1989). Despite this belief
that there was no trauma in the incest he depicted,
however, Malle's artistry did accurately convey
the restive edginess of a family in which incest
occurs, even though his film's light tone
seems to have hidden this agitated, uneasy quality
from many of its early viewers. The lack of boundaries
and limits in relation to all behavior, including
sexuality, makes the incest far from the "accidental"
encounter that Genet (1971) described. While Lorenz
(1985) was right that there is neither force nor
coercion in the incest, this is hardly a safeguard
from adverse effects. Indeed, boys who know they
were excited and willing participants in sexual
abuse, or who feel great affection for their abuser,
often feel guiltily responsible for what happened
(Dimock, 1989; Gartner, 1999). This makes it even
more difficult for them to come to terms with it
. And Canby's (1971) ironic but telling statement
about Clara having won a place in Laurent's
heart "ahead of all women to come" has
ominous implications for the boy's later ability
to form intimate relationships with women. The clinical
and psychological literature on both men and women
involved in incest as children demonstrates how
remarkably difficult it can be to surmount the negative
impact of having literally been an "Oedipal
winner" and go on to establish other intimate
relationships. The character of these clinical accounts
(see, for example, Bolton, Morris, and MacEachron,
1988; Lew, 1988; Hunter, 1990; Mendel, 1995; Gartner,
1999), certainly gives the lie to Malle's
perhaps frivolous contention, as quoted by de Leusse
(1971), that psychoanalysts would lose patients
if boys made love to their mothers rather than dream
about it all their lives.
In
my view, Laurent's flight from his mother's
bed to find a willing sexual partner of his own
age does not, as Malle presumably intended, show
that he had no ill effects from the abuse. Rather,
I believe it reveals how disturbed he is by having
achieved his erotic desires with her, and by her
allowing and encouraging him to do so. These erotic
wishes ferment throughout the movie, developing
from the usual flirtatiousness between a young adolescent
and his mother, through the anxious recognition
of her sexual affair, and on to his exquisitely
disturbing open desire for her in the scenes where
he spies on her in the bathroom, listens to her
having sex with her lover, and longingly lays out
her underwear on her bed so it looks like her body,
then makes love to her clothes.
Seen
in this light, Laurent's instantly leaving
Clara after the incest to spend the night with a
young girl is not proof that he has been freed of
his obsession with his mother. Rather, it serves
to distract him from his deed and may set the stage
for his resorting to sexually compulsive behavior
to soothe anxiety in the future, another common
symptom of men sexually abused as boys (Lew, 1988;
Gartner, 1999). The night with the young girl constitutes
Laurent's attempt to cleanse himself and perhaps
even to reassure himself that he still has a penis
and has not been castrated by the incest. Like many
boys, he is rushing to deny any ill effects from
premature sex with a woman (Mendel, 1995; Gartner,
1999), even, in this case, his mother. At the end
of the movie, the father and brothers laugh applaudingly
at what they see as Laurent's sexual coming
of age. The irony, of course, is that they do not
know that the mother was the partner. When Laurent
and his mother join their laughter, they are making
a duplicitous decision to deny once again the family's
inner distress and confusion.
In
Spanking the Monkey, made over twenty years after
Murmur of the Heart, maternal incest is depicted
in a very different mood. Ray, a college premed
student, returns home for summer vacation expecting
to leave shortly for a prestigious internship at
the Surgeon General's office in Washington.
Tom, his salesman father, meets him at the bus and
tells him his mother has suffered a severe fracture.
To his dismay, Ray is told he must stay home to
nurse her while his father goes on an extended business
trip. They drive directly to the airport for Tom's
departure. Ray protests giving up his internship,
but Tom insists it is now time to give something
back and sacrifice his plans. Tom hurriedly gives
Ray a long list of instructions. Some are about
the mother's needs, but, tellingly, many more
are about the family dog's care.
The
mother, Susan, is portrayed as difficult, intelligent,
attractive, bitter, and perhaps alcoholic. The parents'
marriage is revealed as empty, with Tom having affairs
on his trips and Susan restless, lonely, and unfulfilled.
As the summer progresses, Ray does a great deal
of physical caretaking of his mother, including
carrying her back and forth to the toilet, standing
next to the shower with averted eyes while helping
her bathe, and rubbing moisturizing lotion on her
legs and under her high hip cast. These scenes are
increasingly sensual and disturbing as time goes
on. He has little else to do, and when he retreats
to the bathroom to masturbate ("spank the
monkey") after frustrating or angry encounters
with his mother, he is consistently interrupted
by the dog.
Ray
eventually arranges to go to his internship. He
can't sleep the night before his departure,
and he and his mother watch television together,
lying on her bed and drinking vodka and tonic. This
leads to a consummation of the erotic tension between
them. In the morning, Ray misses his train, and
tension erupts between mother and son. Ray speaks
to Tom in Seattle, telling him what happened the
night before. Susan denies the incest and Tom believes
her, protesting to Ray that he "doesn't
need" this kind of problem when his business
is doing badly.
Ray
is helplessly furious, and tries to hang himself with
a belt. He is interrupted by Susan, and soon Tom comes
home and announces that he can't pay for Ray's
next year of college, that Ray will have to work with
Tom and live at home. Ray makes a suicidal dive into
an old quarry. Surviving the dive, at the picture's
end he is seen hitchhiking out of town.
The
tones of Murmur of the Heart and Spanking the Monkey
are strikingly different, giving their audiences
very different messages about maternal incest. I
have commented on the light, ironic tone of Murmur
of the Heart, which implied, especially to its early
viewers, that somehow the incest was a normal, if
unusual, part of growing up for Laurent. Spanking
the Monkey has a much darker tone. The dangerous
bitterness of the mother, the hopelessness of the
father beneath his devil-may-care salesman's
exterior, and the desperate and ineffective attempts
of the son to save himself from being trapped by
the family's dynamics, are all chillingly
conveyed.
In
both films, the parents are isolated from one another.
In each mother-son relationship, the eroticism is
mutual but the mother disavows it. The family denial
in Murmur of the Heart is also seen in Spanking
the Monkey, but its quality is different. In Murmur
of the Heart, the family disclaims or minimizes
its stresses. Its members seem to believe the picture
they present of a spirited, basically unified family.
In Spanking the Monkey, the parents also have a
relatively happy front, but the mother, at least,
is openly despondent about her husband and her life,
while the father is withdrawn from his wife and
unable to deal with her emotional vicissitudes,
not really caring about them except as they impinge
upon him. Yet, when the family's survival
is threatened by the son's revelation of incest,
the mother denies it categorically and the father
is relieved to accept her denial and blame his son
for creating problems. Unlike Laurent, Ray is furious
at his mother. His reality is dismissed and he then
becomes suicidal. This chain of events is much more
in keeping with what we know happens in the aftermath
of incest and sexual abuse. Anger, confusion, even
suicide, are likely sequelae, especially when the
victim's reality is disbelieved.
Abuse of Boys by Men in Film
Sexual abuse of boys by men is virtually always portrayed
in a very different light than abuse by women. In
contrast to the sense that women are offering boys
sexual education and pleasure, men are usually seen
as humiliating and hurting boys through sexual activity.
Sexual scenes between boys and men are usually coercive
and brutal, often involving outright rape if a sexual
act is completed. After briefly considering movies
with scenes of sexual humiliation, I will describe
three movies in which young boys are raped by men;
one in which chronic institutionalized molestation
including rape is portrayed; then two in which father-son
incest is alluded to, though not actually described
or shown; and, finally, an exception to the rule that
male-male abuse is always portrayed as brutal and
violently coercive.
Sexual Humiliation
Sexual humiliation by older boys is graphically portrayed
in numerous movies, often for humorous effect. In
the Swedish film My Life As a Dog (1985), for example,
a young boy is bullied by his older brother to put
his penis into the neck of a glass bottle in order
to demonstrate to other children how a penis enters
a vagina. The penis gets stuck in the bottle, which
has to be smashed to release it, cutting the boy's
genitals and making him bleed profusely. The other
children are highly amused, and the scene, while conveying
one of many poignant indignities the boy goes through,
is comic in tone. Similarly, in Porky's (1981),
teenage boys are inspected nude, then scared into
running outside naked; and in Powder (1995) the albino
title character is stripped naked by other boys. I
have already described the sexual humiliation of the
retarded boy in The Last Picture Show.
Rape
In these three movies, forcible rape of boys is
portrayed as a horror that cannot be spoken of,
with very negative aftereffects:
In
Prince of Tides (1991), a middle aged man is forced
to look at his personal history when his twin sister
attempts suicide and he is asked by her psychiatrist
to help her understand the family history. Caustic
and bitter, he says at one point, "I chose
not to have a memory." Among many terrible
familial experiences, including a seductive relationship
with his beautiful mother, there is a shared family
memory, never alluded to, of a hideous multiple
rape by three escaped convicts of the mother, sister,
and brother. The protagonist eventually feels compelled
to tell the psychiatrist about these rapes, finally
sobbing out the reactions of the 13-year-old boy
who never spoke of his violation. (Arguably, he
is then abused by the psychiatrist when she starts
an affair with him.) It is clear that the rape is
but one of many emotional traumas in his childhood,
and that his stalemate as an adult has multiple
sources in his early familial experiences.
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